Seeking Affirmation

Now that I'm married I have received these three questions the most:

1. Are you going to get a puppy?
2. Are you pregnant?
3. Have you gotten your wedding pictures back yet?

The answers to these questions are:

1. Absolutely not.
2. Nope.
3. Yes!

I kind-of find all three of these questions funny, but in particular the last one. It's just not a question I was expecting. Everyone's follow-up question has been: "When are you going to post them on....(fill in the blank with any social media site)?!" The more people kept asking me, the more anxious I became. To be honest, I have been guilty of stalking people's wedding photos...some of which I don't even know (i.e. Pinterest)! I found myself getting excited to hear how perfect everything was, how beautiful I looked, and how I totally nailed my theme of vintage elegance. Ha. 

Everyone seeks affirmation, but are we in the right way? Why has the selfie become so popular? Why do people feel the need to take a picture of themselves and post it on social media? AFFIRMATION. We want to be told how awesome our hair, outfit, face, or whatever looks....constantly. We have to let the whole world know that we think we look good, but we want someone to say, "yes, I agree." WHY?! Why has our world turned our way of thinking that our worth is determined by other people's opinions? 

This is something I really struggle with. I refuse to post a selfie (although, I think I'm guilty of 2); however, I still seek affirmation through social media. I was so shallowly telling my friend that it hurt my feelings that I'm never in anyone's profile picture or that no one ever comments on my pictures, but just "likes" them. Lame, I know, but it's true! Why would I ever let my feelings of self-esteem be rooted in something as dumb as Facebook?!

Humility is something that I personally have to work on, so I am choosing to not post my wedding pictures. I know my wedding was beautiful. It is a Sacrament, so duh...it was gorgeous. I know I looked good because my husband told me and I loved my wedding dress, so who cares what you think?! I am choosing to be confident and happy without receiving affirmation. 

We live in a world where we're not seeking affirmation from above....from God. My prayer is to be little and small. For the world to forget about me, so that my relationship with Jesus will only be stronger (I'm failing, but trying). I'm simply writing this because I know that I'm not the only one who thinks this way (even though the evil one wants me to). If seeking affirmation is something that you struggle with, please repost this IF you think it will help someone, if not, then don't. :)

*Note: All affirmation isn't bad...some you truly deserve! I'm simply saying that I tend to seek affirmation in the wrong way and I want to share my journey.

Love in Jesus through Mary,
Anna Timberlake! :) 

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